Why are we taking responsibility for your mistakes?

Saw this article this morning and while I applaud the writer for his honesty, the subject matter still infuriated me. The article is here; http://www.smh.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/a-chilling-realisation-of-how-close-i-might-have-come-to-rape-20101012-16hxg.html

The most important part is this point: "I was driving one afternoon when I heard a legal discussion on the radio about definitions of rape. It was mentioned that if a man took advantage of a woman who was too drunk to know what she was doing, then this would fall into the broader definition of rape. That is, if I'd gone on with things, I may have been liable to be charged."

That is one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard, and in my opinion it is a terrible flaw in the legal system. In Campbell's (the writer) case, the girl while being totally wasted, was coming onto him. If they then had sex, it would've clearly been consenting, no matter how drunk she is... it's not like she was drunk and denying his advances... she's actually doing the advancing.

Dictionary.com defines rape as "the unlawful compelling of a woman through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse," or "any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person." The first definition is already rather sexist, as rape doesn't exclusively apply to women, so the second definition would be more correct. In Campbell's case, he wouldn't have been forcing anything upon her, so she can't say he raped her. He wouldn't even have the intention of raping her, as he would simply be receiving her advances.

Then what if he had been so drunk and out of it, and they ended up having sex... and he woke up the next day regretting what happened and felt that he had been taken advantage of? Society in general wouldn't recognise that, and just assume he was making an excuse... and all of this is because we males are painted as sexual predators, so it is always the guy's fault and the girls get a free pass.

In reality, the whole thing is the girl's fault. She was the one who decided to get drunk out of her head, and she should deal with the consequences of that. If someone drink drives and crashes into someone because of it, then it's the drink driver's fault... you wouldn't expect the other drivers on the road to be like "oh, that driver is drunk, we should get out of his way." In those cases, the drink driver is blamed as it was his/her fault for driving under influence and not arranging for other methods of transportation ahead of time. Why should it be any different for a girl who gets drunk and ends up sleeping with some random?

I always hear whinging about how girls want to be treated like equals, but when it comes to a lot of things... it seems really one-sided to me. This particular scenario is no exception. If you do something stupid, you are the only one to blame.